We will never grow tired of repeating how essential it is to place God at the center of your relationship. He is—and always will be—the foundation for a successful, happy, and lasting marriage. Only through Him can you build or rebuild one of the most important and vital pillars for fully enjoying marriage: trust.
As spouses, we desire to be loved and to have our hearts protected by our partners. That is why trust is part of the covenant we make in marriage, and it is strengthened through effort and dedication. Without it, we could never experience a relationship filled with peace or reach the full potential for marriage that God has planned for us.
Trust is nourished by loyalty, faithfulness, and honor, but it also encompasses the support, perseverance, and selfless commitment we offer as spouses. According to God’s design, marriage is for a lifetime, and for that reason it must be built on a foundation of trust. As a pillar of marriage, trust must be cultivated and worked on a daily basis. However, the strength of marital trust is measured by the trust we place in God.
God is faithful and loyal, and He always keeps His promises. Therefore, He is the first One in whom we should place our complete trust, because doing so gives us the assurance that He will care for us in every moment of our lives. After that, we can trust the people He brings into our lives and eventually develop a healthy trust within marriage.
This is precisely what the psalmist declares when he says: 'Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart's desire.' Psalm 37:3–4 (NLT)
In situations where trust in our spouse has been damaged, developing trust in God first will enable us to rebuild it. After experiencing something that has affected, or that we feel has destroyed, our trust, it is absolutely vital to seek the healing that only He can provide. Nothing in this world can replace the restoration that God alone offers in the midst of pain, brokenness, and disappointment.
Seeking His healing will lead you to seek His will, and there He will show you what He is capable of transforming. There is no betrayal, pain, or experience so severe that He cannot restore it and turn it into a testimony and a new beginning. The key is this: trust in Him will enable you to face any situation and ultimately overcome it.
Without a doubt, trust is one of the most difficult pillars to build because of the time it requires, especially when it has been wounded by a third party or even by our own spouse. That is why we must remain steadfast and persistent in building it. Many times, the beginning of that journey may seem full of obstacles, and it may even feel as though no progress is being made. Yet over time, that rocky path will become smoother, and you will find the greatest reward: a marriage filled with peace and genuine love, stronger than it was at the beginning. What matters the most is remembering that every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory.
Us, as a couple, trusted God during a moment that marked a turning point in our lives. Had we not trusted Him, we would not be married today, happy, and living a completely renewed life. Nor would we have been called to create this platform to help, strengthen, and minister to marriages and to people who long to take this important step. For that reason, we can personally assure you that the Lord can transform the deepest pain into a testimony filled with purpose and restoration.
So, if you trust in God and do good, you will live securely in the land with your spouse and prosper, because He has promised it.