Many people, including Christians, find it difficult to talk about sexuality. The main reason people avoid this topic is that the world has created an image of immorality around sex, often associating it with fornication and other improper behaviors such as promiscuity, licentiousness, and lust. However, this image is far distant from God's true purpose, since sexual intimacy was intended for the enjoyment of marriage.
Genesis 2:24 says, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.' God established the institution of marriage at the beginning of creation and ordained that a man and his wife become one flesh through sexual intimacy. This command is reinforced even further in 1 Corinthians 7:3, which expressly states that a husband should fulfill his wife's sexual needs, and a wife should fulfill her husband's sexual needs.
Sex was created for the enjoyment of marriage. For this reason, it is vital that you prioritize your time together, since sexual enjoyment between spouses is an essential part of marriage. Likewise, sex between husband and wife should feel free and enjoyable, spontaneous rather than mechanical. Sexuality is a subject that should be discussed openly, as spouses should make it a priority to learn about every aspect of what they enjoy and desire.
Proverbs 5:15–17 says: 'Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.' This is a clear indication that sex was designed to be enjoyed fully and without restraint, provided it is practiced in a healthy way within the marital union.
Sexual intimacy is an opportunity to connect fully with your spouse; it is the moment when a person is most vulnerable, because we lay everything aside and connect on a deeper level. Even after the act is over, intimacy continues; spouses talk, demonstrate and express their love, reflect together, admire one another, laugh, show affection, and bring each other pleasure, making it a deeply enjoyable experience. Sex is completely permissible, but only within marriage. Furthermore, without sex, the purposes of marriage cannot be fully realized. God gives it to us with pleasure so that we may become one physically and emotionally.
Sexual intimacy can be cultivated and even planned, but it can also be spontaneous. If there is connection with your spouse, intimacy between the two of you can arise at any moment. Remember, everything within sexual intimacy is good and acceptable within marriage, as long as both spouses agree and it does not involve anything immoral according to the Word of God.